If you’re like most salespeople, including me, your natural response to a gap in any conversation is to fill it. The more uncomfortable the silence, the more words you try to stuff in there. It’s almost as if you’re an Iowa shopkeeper and silence is that nasty oil topped flood water spewing toward your front door. Quick- get out another sandbag of inane excuses for everything that you think your customer might be thinking.
When I first started in sales my most obvious tell that I was in over my head was my penchant for babbling. At the first sign of technical trouble with a demo, price resistance, or an accusation that my CEO had told an outrageous lie (an hourly occurrence) there I was spouting acronyms at crystal meth speed in Porky Pig cadence. On the phone CIOs probably took a little mental vacation (pre internet, remember). In person I’m sure they just noted the time and looked forward to when the IBM sales guy was going to show up for drinks or golf.
It was only after a number of years that I learned that when I shut up, my customer started telling me things. Important things, like what his objections were, or who was really going to sign the purchase order. Positive things- like what our product strengths were vs. the competition. Negative things, like how the competing sales guy never zips his fly up or his SE keeps hitting on the marketing chicks. Sometimes he even started talking himself into buying my product-my personal favorite. At the very least, neither one of us spontaneously combusted if there were few moments of silence.
Now that I’m on the other side I notice the nervous gabbing all the more. It is amplified by the asynchronous nature of speaker phones- only one person can talk at a time. Recently a Jigsaw product manager and I had a salesperson on the line and we used his inability to pause as a replacement for the mute button. It sure would have been helpful if he had at least cleared the line for 10 seconds so I could sell his product for him- it looked interesting from the web research I did.
This isn’t anything new- everyone says “ask questions,”” listen to your customer,” do 80% of the listening and 20% of the talking.” You know when verbal diarrhea is coming. Take your pepto or go to your happy place or do whatever you can to wait it out. You’ll be amazed at what you learn.
